manhood | womanhood conference

may 21, 2022 | cornerstone west los angeles

What is Biblical manhood and womanhood and why does so much of the conversation in the church focus on what we (ok usually women) can and cannot do?

I joined Pastors Brian Colmery and Scott Mehl for an all-day discussion of what the Bible teaches us about men and women in the home, the church, and the world. We offered a positive vision of manhood and womanhood that highlights how God has made us both distinct and unified. As brothers and sisters in the family of God, we are designed to bring our diverse and relative strengths together for the flourishing of our communities—and yes, we took a stab at some new definitions!

Consider this conference our opening serve. It took us 8 hours to set the table, but we are excited for all the conversations that will come as we taste and see the Lord’s goodness together. Take a listen!

Conference Content:
Part 1: What are Men & Women?
Part 2: How Things Go Wrong
Part 3: The Church, The Home, The World

Podcast Follow Ups:
Part 1: Past Church Experiences (Apple, Spotify)
Part 2: Issues Upstream (Apple, Spotify)
Part 3: Practical Application at Cornerstone (Apple, Spotify)

for related content, read my growing Life Series

Part 1: All of Us | Part 2: Nourishing | Part 3: Housing | Part 4: Nurturing | Part 5: Delivering

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